Portrait by Joshua Reynolds of Elizabeth Herbert, Countess of Pembroke, with her son (c. 1765), Source https://hoocher.com (PD-Art, Age-100)
Raising children is an enormously challenging endeavor, under the best of circumstances. Human beings are complicated creatures. Abuse adds dark forces to the mix. It shapes us as children and impacts the parents we become.
Parents attempt to model the behavior they want their children to adopt; strive to give their children the things they, themselves, never had.
If we are to raise sons who do not abuse the women in their lives, we must – first and foremost – protect them against exposure to abusive men . By this I mean not only men who might molest them, but men who treat us (and them) badly.
Consciously and unconsciously, boys take their cues from the men in the lives. This is only natural. It is not to say…
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